June 22 2009 (mid winter in New Zealand)
We are now at week 7 of our garage build and the first floor is done!
The concrete floor/ceiling is now ready for the actual garage to be built and the walls are going up right now.
Monday, June 22, 2009
Sunday, June 21, 2009
Why we should forgive
1. Forgiveness does not create a relationship. Unless the perpetrator speaks
the truth about what they have done and changes their mind and behavior, a
relationship of trust is not possible.
2. When you forgive someone you certainly release him or her from judgement,
but without true change, no real relationship can be established.
3. Forgiveness in no way requires that you trust the one you forgive. But should they finally acknowledge what they have done and the hurt they have caused,you will discover a miracle in your own heart that allows you to reach out and begin to build between you a bridge of reconciliation. And sometimes that road may even take you to the miracle of fully restored trust.
4. Forgiveness is first for you, the forgiver to release you from something that will eat you alive, that will destroy your joy and your ability to love fully and openly.
5. The perpetrator probably doesn’t care less about the pain and torment you have gone through. If anything, they feed on the knowledge. You can cut that off by forgiving them and in doing so, you will release them from a burden that they carry whether they know it or not; acknowledge it or not. And anyway, why should they live in your head rent free!
6. You can forgive them but you don’t have to feel loving towards them. But
understand that the broken child that has been twisted by their pain causes their actions.
7. Forgiveness does not require you to pretend their actions never happened.
8. Forgiveness does not excuse anything. The last thing this person is, is free.
9. It is all right if you are still angry because what they did was terrible. They caused incredible pain. It was wrong and your anger is the right response.But don’t let your anger and pain and loss prevent you from forgiving them and removing your hands from around their neck.
10. You can declare your forgiveness a hundred times and eventually you will find you have forgiven completely. And then one day you will pray for their wholeness and hopefully love will burn from their life every vestige of corruption.
11. Don’t ever discount your tears. They can be healing waters and a stream of joy. Sometimes they are the best words a heart can speak.
Adapted from Paul Young's message about Forgiveness from his book The Shack.
the truth about what they have done and changes their mind and behavior, a
relationship of trust is not possible.
2. When you forgive someone you certainly release him or her from judgement,
but without true change, no real relationship can be established.
3. Forgiveness in no way requires that you trust the one you forgive. But should they finally acknowledge what they have done and the hurt they have caused,you will discover a miracle in your own heart that allows you to reach out and begin to build between you a bridge of reconciliation. And sometimes that road may even take you to the miracle of fully restored trust.
4. Forgiveness is first for you, the forgiver to release you from something that will eat you alive, that will destroy your joy and your ability to love fully and openly.
5. The perpetrator probably doesn’t care less about the pain and torment you have gone through. If anything, they feed on the knowledge. You can cut that off by forgiving them and in doing so, you will release them from a burden that they carry whether they know it or not; acknowledge it or not. And anyway, why should they live in your head rent free!
6. You can forgive them but you don’t have to feel loving towards them. But
understand that the broken child that has been twisted by their pain causes their actions.
7. Forgiveness does not require you to pretend their actions never happened.
8. Forgiveness does not excuse anything. The last thing this person is, is free.
9. It is all right if you are still angry because what they did was terrible. They caused incredible pain. It was wrong and your anger is the right response.But don’t let your anger and pain and loss prevent you from forgiving them and removing your hands from around their neck.
10. You can declare your forgiveness a hundred times and eventually you will find you have forgiven completely. And then one day you will pray for their wholeness and hopefully love will burn from their life every vestige of corruption.
11. Don’t ever discount your tears. They can be healing waters and a stream of joy. Sometimes they are the best words a heart can speak.
Adapted from Paul Young's message about Forgiveness from his book The Shack.
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