Now I really feel my age. Looking at Bebo makes me feel old! Even though my 30 year old has been texting and emailing me for years in this same cryptic language and appalling spelling it doesn't mean I have to like it. I know language is usage etc but how do people manage to fill out job applications with perfect grammar? I suppose the answer is ....does it really matter?
Looking at Myspace I first searched the main US site under classifieds and found Auckland under Australia.....no great surprise I suppose for an American site. So switched to NZMyspace and did same with Auckland was still under AU........I think classifieds default to US.
Then I searched through the groups , noting many were founded in 2004/2005 and browsed through the places and travel ones. Noticed lots of private groups comments by the editor like"please refrain from spam posts, this is a place for travel lovers, not for entrepreneurs to place there business information and scams."
Lastly I looked at Facebook and the explanatory statement explains it nicely: "Facebook is a social utility that connects people with friends and others who work, study and live around them. People use Facebook to keep up with friends, upload an unlimited number of photos, share links and videos, and learn more about the people they meet. An online community? But then under "Recent Headlines" in an interview with Time Magazine, Facebook CEO Mark Zuckerberg says " Our whole theory is that people have real connections in the world. People communicate most naturally and effectively with their friends and the people around them. What we figured is that if we could model what those connections were, [we could] provide that information to a set of applications through which people want to share information, photos or videos or events. But that only works if those relationships are real. That's a really big difference between Facebook and a lot of other sites. We're not thinking about ourselves as a community — we're not trying to build a community — we're not trying to make new connections. " Nice.
Wednesday, September 19, 2007
Thursday, September 13, 2007
Week One-Steps 1, 2, 3
The adventure has begun!
After a few glitches I am on my way and have created the bones of my first blog.
My internal process around this has reminded me how I approach learning and problem solving.
I was simultaneously excited about the possibilities and terrified because of my fear of failure.
So I took the plunge.
Then as I mastered the technical aspects I was able to reflect on content. What is the purpose of this blog? Who am I writing to and for? What message am I conveying? What does all this say about me? Reflection reflection.....
Yes, I am a babyboomer and like many, I have issues around exposure. Feeling exposed that is.
So I am mindful of being selective in what I post and what sort of attention that might result.
Having said that, this is a process for me and I want to create and express who I am and where I have come from... and where I am going. I am quite familiar with journaling my process as a therapeutic tool but how much do I want to reveal here? And to date it has been one hell of a journey.
Then my resourceful side kicked in. What else could I include and where could I search. I trawled my own files and found some things that have helped me in the past. So, thus far, my blog reflects what I have long wanted (serenity), some lessons for living I agree with and which keep me in line when I begin to stray (Dalai Lama stuff), a list qualities that benchmark healthy relating and some pictures (all mine) that capture some aspects of my life now.
All of these elements depict tools I have in my toolkit but this is just the beginning.
I am sure in the next few weeks my blog will evolve in all sorts of directions and I can hardly wait!
After a few glitches I am on my way and have created the bones of my first blog.
My internal process around this has reminded me how I approach learning and problem solving.
I was simultaneously excited about the possibilities and terrified because of my fear of failure.
So I took the plunge.
Then as I mastered the technical aspects I was able to reflect on content. What is the purpose of this blog? Who am I writing to and for? What message am I conveying? What does all this say about me? Reflection reflection.....
Yes, I am a babyboomer and like many, I have issues around exposure. Feeling exposed that is.
So I am mindful of being selective in what I post and what sort of attention that might result.
Having said that, this is a process for me and I want to create and express who I am and where I have come from... and where I am going. I am quite familiar with journaling my process as a therapeutic tool but how much do I want to reveal here? And to date it has been one hell of a journey.
Then my resourceful side kicked in. What else could I include and where could I search. I trawled my own files and found some things that have helped me in the past. So, thus far, my blog reflects what I have long wanted (serenity), some lessons for living I agree with and which keep me in line when I begin to stray (Dalai Lama stuff), a list qualities that benchmark healthy relating and some pictures (all mine) that capture some aspects of my life now.
All of these elements depict tools I have in my toolkit but this is just the beginning.
I am sure in the next few weeks my blog will evolve in all sorts of directions and I can hardly wait!
Wednesday, September 12, 2007
How to know you are healthy emotionally
People who are healthy in themselves, ready for love and love-able show some of the following qualities, characteristics and attitudes:
· They don’t expect others to make them feel good. They are not always looking for approval acceptance or appreciation from outside themselves. Their feelings about themselves do not depend on the opinions of others, yet they are comfortable with compliments and acknowledgement given to them.
· They feel loveable regardless of their weaknesses or mistakes. They are not plagued with quilt, shame, fears and inadequacies. They are not too demanding or condemning of themselves, their children or others. Acceptance and forgiveness is not hard for them.
· They do good things for the quality of their own life, not for reward or recognition. They feel that their value comes from who they are more than what they do. They do not have to achieve great things or prove anything to anyone in order to feel good about themselves.
· They don’t live in fear of what others may think. They do not need to spend a lot of time, energy or resources keeping up an image or front. They are not afraid of expressing their own personality, feelings or opinions and do not need to be defensive or protective about themselves.
· They have a sense of empathy, acceptance of and compassion for other people. They understand human dilemmas and don’t feel the need to be controlling or critical as other people work things out for themselves, maybe in their time and in different ways.
· They are willing and able to generate energy, love and care towards others. They give without waiting for others to give back in return. They reach out naturally and warmly, giving of themselves.
· They radiate and unaffected and genuine humanity that makes them appealing and attractive. Even if they have had disappointments and setbacks, they are not afraid of love or life. They radiate energy, enthusiasm, personality, hope and heart and other people respond readily to this warmth and naturalness
· They look after themselves. They do not feel that it is selfish to make sure they feel good and look good. They keep themselves healthy, balanced, motivated and attractive, seeking fulfilment and quality in their life. They manage their time and resources so that their needs are not always last on the list.
· They pursue communication and understanding in their relationships. They are not oversensitive and do not need to resort to denial, blame, defence or attack in their interactions with others. They are not withholding or detached and do not avoid intimacy or being truly known by others.
· They are open and honest in expressing themselves. They are not superficial and they give others the space and freedom to express themselves as well. They listen, contribute and care as they communicate. They are not afraid of admitting their own struggles, confusions, troubles or triumphs in life.
· They are natural and comfortable with themselves. They have their own style and way of being and they enjoy others being themselves too. They don’t feel inadequate or needy and do not need to be smothering, jealous, demanding or guarded in their relationships.
· They can express themselves on all levels, social as well as intimate. They are not afraid of intimacy and have a desire to know themselves and be known in return. They have nothing to hide and are comfortable with themselves, warts and all. They so not have boundaries or mannerisms that keep others out.
· They don’t expect others to make them feel good. They are not always looking for approval acceptance or appreciation from outside themselves. Their feelings about themselves do not depend on the opinions of others, yet they are comfortable with compliments and acknowledgement given to them.
· They feel loveable regardless of their weaknesses or mistakes. They are not plagued with quilt, shame, fears and inadequacies. They are not too demanding or condemning of themselves, their children or others. Acceptance and forgiveness is not hard for them.
· They do good things for the quality of their own life, not for reward or recognition. They feel that their value comes from who they are more than what they do. They do not have to achieve great things or prove anything to anyone in order to feel good about themselves.
· They don’t live in fear of what others may think. They do not need to spend a lot of time, energy or resources keeping up an image or front. They are not afraid of expressing their own personality, feelings or opinions and do not need to be defensive or protective about themselves.
· They have a sense of empathy, acceptance of and compassion for other people. They understand human dilemmas and don’t feel the need to be controlling or critical as other people work things out for themselves, maybe in their time and in different ways.
· They are willing and able to generate energy, love and care towards others. They give without waiting for others to give back in return. They reach out naturally and warmly, giving of themselves.
· They radiate and unaffected and genuine humanity that makes them appealing and attractive. Even if they have had disappointments and setbacks, they are not afraid of love or life. They radiate energy, enthusiasm, personality, hope and heart and other people respond readily to this warmth and naturalness
· They look after themselves. They do not feel that it is selfish to make sure they feel good and look good. They keep themselves healthy, balanced, motivated and attractive, seeking fulfilment and quality in their life. They manage their time and resources so that their needs are not always last on the list.
· They pursue communication and understanding in their relationships. They are not oversensitive and do not need to resort to denial, blame, defence or attack in their interactions with others. They are not withholding or detached and do not avoid intimacy or being truly known by others.
· They are open and honest in expressing themselves. They are not superficial and they give others the space and freedom to express themselves as well. They listen, contribute and care as they communicate. They are not afraid of admitting their own struggles, confusions, troubles or triumphs in life.
· They are natural and comfortable with themselves. They have their own style and way of being and they enjoy others being themselves too. They don’t feel inadequate or needy and do not need to be smothering, jealous, demanding or guarded in their relationships.
· They can express themselves on all levels, social as well as intimate. They are not afraid of intimacy and have a desire to know themselves and be known in return. They have nothing to hide and are comfortable with themselves, warts and all. They so not have boundaries or mannerisms that keep others out.
Dalai Lama’s Instructions For Life
1. Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
2. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.
3. Follow the three Rs: Respect for self, Respect for others and Responsibility for all your actions.
4. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.
5. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.
6. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
7. When you realise you’ve made a mistake; take immediate steps to correct it.
8. Spend some time alone every day.
9. Open your arms to change but don’t let go of your values.
10. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
11. Live a good honourable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll be able to enjoy it a second time.
12. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation of your life.
13. In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don’t bring up the past.
14. Share your knowledge. It’s a way to achieve immortality.
15. Be gentle with the earth.
16. Once a year, go somewhere you’ve never been before.
17. Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.
18. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.
19. Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon.
2. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.
3. Follow the three Rs: Respect for self, Respect for others and Responsibility for all your actions.
4. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.
5. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.
6. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
7. When you realise you’ve made a mistake; take immediate steps to correct it.
8. Spend some time alone every day.
9. Open your arms to change but don’t let go of your values.
10. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
11. Live a good honourable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll be able to enjoy it a second time.
12. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation of your life.
13. In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don’t bring up the past.
14. Share your knowledge. It’s a way to achieve immortality.
15. Be gentle with the earth.
16. Once a year, go somewhere you’ve never been before.
17. Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.
18. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.
19. Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon.
Not that I work here
There I was just sitting at my desk and all these people turned up and someone took a photo of us all. I guess I will find out why eventually.....
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